In my earlier years I thought if I didn't have a man, I couldn't celebrate this day of love. Now that I am older, I realized so much valuable time was wasted feeling depressed when I could have used that time alone to get to know and love ME! Better late than never huh?
All my life I longed and searched for a perfect relationship that would fill the hole I felt inside. That desire to be loved unconditionally led me to tremendous amounts of pain. Pain that left me broken and feeling unlovable most of my life. On the outside, I was this seemingly confident woman with a great career when all the while I was a mess inside.
It wasn't until my last relationship in 1999 that a light went off. After seven years together the relationship came to a life changing end. I knew from that moment I had to dig deep if I was ever going to truly be whole enough to find the love I knew God intended for me to know and experience. A love that could only come from Him and myself.
I can't say the road was or is easy but its been the most rewarding journey of my life. Learning to love me JUST AS I AM. Here and NOW!! When you realize that there is a purpose that only YOU can fulfill it becomes almost suicidal to not begin the journey to self-love and acceptance. The message you are given to deliver can ONLY come from you. There are people assigned to meet and hear what you have to say so they too can be transformed by your story. HOW POWERFUL IS THAT???
Like I said, its not easy to look inside and deal with the pain. I think it is everyones natural desire to be loved, I believe its what we were created to do. Why not let that love start with the love you give to yourself this Valentine's Day. So often we give ourselves away for "love's" sake to others and yet we still feel empty inside. What if you gave that same love, dedication and sacrifice to yourself? How would your life be different? How would it feel to treat yourself special for once? Set the standard for love in your life, aren't you worth it? I say, YOU ARE!!
Last year, when my husband deployed to Iraq, I took advantage of that time alone to get to know WHO I AM again. I rediscovered my love for singing, dancing and even began to accept my new body that age has given me. (still working on that one, smile :-) ) I have learned I am pretty darn fun and beautiful!!!
People can tell us this all day long but until we BELIEVE it, nothing changes. This time of self-discovery opened me up to the realization that I am not alone. So many women get lost in loving others and forget to love themselves. As a makeup artist, I see this syndrome EVERYDAY when women try to use makeup to hide the pain.
So I challenge you this Valentine's Day to take the first step by changing your MINDSET and begin your journey to self-love and acceptance TODAY. Discover just how freaking amazing and beautiful you are inside and out. Buy yourself some flowers, sip a fragrant glass of wine, start a journal and spend some time getting to know you.
Re-ignite your hopes, dreams and passion for life!!! Re-ignite the beauty of YOU this Valentine's Day!
With Love and Light,
DorothyInez Del Tufo
Minister of Beauty