“Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”  - Veronica A. Shoffstall
Fralisa and I as we closed out the celebration

This weekend a wonderful group of women came together to celebrate who they are at the 3rd Annual "Madly In Love with Me" celebration.  This year was unique as I had the distinct honor of Co-Hosting with Western Washington Woman, Fralisa McFall.  Together with the help of guest presenters:  Esther Alley, Kelly Morrison, Sonja Morgan and The Jeweled Scarab Dance Company the women in attendance had a transformational experience.

Meditation session with Esther...relaxing.
Our day started off with, Spiritual Life Coach, Esther Alley teaching the women the power of meditation and connecting to their divine source.  It is through this connection we are able to tap into our higher self, where the self-love really begins.  The women had an opportunity to experience three different types of mediation styles because often we think of mediation as just sitting and being silent.  The one that stood out the most was guided meditation because if really helps maintain focus.


The women working on their "Just Say Yay" project.
Next, was "JUST SAY YAY!!" with Creative Life and Retreat Coach, Kelly Morrison,  Kelly walked the women through an art exercise that helped them acknowledge who they are and the gifts they bring to the world.  I really enjoyed seeing the women get into their inner child and self-expression with the use of crayons, markers and power words.  This activity was really introspective and impactful to many.


Photographer Sonja Morgan...captured the event and did a mini-photoshoot with each lady.  Awesome!
Getting in front of a camera and feeling confident is not an easy for many women.  When you have an amazing woman behind the camera cheering you on, it becomes easier.  You forget someone is looking at you through this little hole.  LOL  

Sonja helped every woman feel comfortable and beautiful as each she stepped in front of the camera for her spotlight moment.
Belly Dancer's, Shelly and Nona, really rocked the house showing women that belly dance is a wonderful way to reconnect with your body and YOUR sexy.  At the end of their session the ladies were able to do a 5-minute choreography.  It was so much fun shimmying our hearts out!

Finally, we ended our day with a SOUL TRAIN DANCE LINE and reminder that we are ALL beautiful AND that a Madly In Love With Me celebration is in order EVERYDAY!!!  


Thank you to all the ladies who chose to share YOUR day with us!!!

 
 
Happy New Year!!!  Can you believe it is 2013?  I hope your holidays were amazing!  I wanted to take a moment and share one of the things I enjoy doing the most every year, DREAM BOARDS.

Dream boards have been instrumental in my life over the past 5 years.  Something happens energetically when we put our goals down on paper.  As a teen my father always told me to write my goals down but I never understood the power of that lesson.  I don't even think he knew the power of what he was teaching me.    

Today I ask , "What do you want to manifest in 2013?"  Peace?  New Career?  New Customers?  New Body? Health?  Relationships?  YOU MUST BE SPECIFIC.  

What you THINK about, YOU BRING ABOUT. 

Here's how to do it!

Get yourself a bunch of magazine, print pictures from online, cut out words and quotes that touch and INspire you.  Once you have pulled your photos and words, review and narrow them down to the ones that reallyresonate with you.  Here are some other tools you can have on hand to make this process creative and fun:

  • Glitter, Glitter Pens
  • Scrapbook background sheets, Construction paper
  • Stickers, Glue sticks 
  • Markers, Colored Pencils, Chalk, Paints
You can organize these pictures/words on a poster board, foam board or in one of my favorite places, A VISION JOURNAL.  I make my own Vision/Dream Journals.  Buy an 8.5 x 11 journal from somewhere like Barnes and Nobles or use a scrapbook.  You can glue your words and pictures throughout the journal.  Then use the journal over the year to document your year's journey.  HAVE FUN!  

Feel free to share your vision boards with me on Facebook.  
 
 
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When you’re making your videos NEVER FORGET you are the STAR of your channel. Just like you make first impressions in real life in the blink of an eye, people will decide quickly whether they want to keep watching your video or move on. By showing up like a STAR, uniquely YOU,  in your videos, you're going to stack the cards HIGH in your favor.




Here are FIVE secrets to looking like a STAR in your videos:

1.     Add a little more of the beauty accessory called "makeup". When applying your makeup prior to the video, think of how much makeup you wear on a daily basis and then double it. The lighting is going to mute the coloring so you will require more blush, eye shadow, and eye liner than usual. The key to wearing more makeup is to blend, blend, blend! The lines of demarcation show up more clearly on camera, so make sure you blend. Before shooting the video, don’t forget to take a test photo to make sure your makeup looks ready for the limelight.

2.     Have good lighting. Lighting is key. It’s your spotlight, after all! To ensure there are no unflattering shadows on your face, turn on the ALL lights, and bring in extra lamps if necessary. When using indoor lighting, one thing to pay attention to the temperature of the lightbulbs. Some lightbulbs emit a warmer orange-like light, while others emit a cooler blue-like light. Make sure any lighting you use shares the same temperature so it’s consistent on-screen. Another lighting alternative is opening the shades during the day for some diffused daylight – just remember, it’s diffused light you want, not direct sunlight! Direct sunlight makes people squint and produces shadows.  Not flattering!!

3.     Style your hair nicely. Just as you pay extra attention to your makeup, take care to make sure your hair is camera-ready as well. Use a little more hair product that normal to prevent fly-aways. Especially if you are filming in high definition (HD), any hair out of place will become more visible.

4.     Pay attention to your background. Everything in your video is speaking to your brand, including your background.  If you are doing fun videos like out on location or letting your audience in on your world spontaneity is okay.  Just don't let that be the norm unless that is  your brand.  You’re a STAR, remember?  Whether you stand for simplicity and elegance, or glamour and glitz, always choose a background that will reflect your brand.  

5.     Be personable. If you’re scared of the spotlight, pretend that you’re having a one-on-one conversation with one of your favorite people when speaking to the camera. That means smiling and lots of eye contact. People do business with those they know, like, and trust, so you want to make sure you come across personable so your audience can connect and subsequently, want to do business with you.  Something I do to shift my energy is DANCE!  Put some jams on and rock out for a minute and get in front of the camera and ROCK YOUR STAR POWER. 

***Need some help?  Check out my program "Simply Gorgeous:  Celebrity Edition" at http://www.connectwithbeauty.com




 
 
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As entrepreneurs that are out to change the world, many of us work from home offices so we can juggle work and manage our homes. When you are your own boss, it’s easy to stuck in a pattern of waking up and making the 10-foot commute to your home office without bothering to change out of your pajamas. What does it matter, no one else will see you, right? I’m here to tell you why it matters. 

The bottom line is this: You will feel better about yourself and be more productive if you have a shower, put on some nice clothes, and do your hair and makeup. For many of us who work from home, we face similar challenges like isolation, depression, and accountability. While this seemingly insignificant change won’t eradicate all your problems immediately, feeling better about yourself will make a significant difference to your success in the long run.

So do yourself a favor! Treat yourself to breakfast, a shower, put on some nice clothes, and make yourself up. Because at the end of the day, when you look good, you feel good, which will enable you to do good in the world. Now go get dressed girl!!  :-)


 
 
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A while back I was at a local firm where I was introduced to one of their consultants. This young man had a friendly manner to him and had evidently taken care to dress in a dress shirt, tie, and slacks and present himself professionally when working with clients. But there was one glaring oversight: head to toe, all of his clothes were wrinkled. In fact, they looked like they were just pulled from a pile of clothes on the floor.

Now you may think that a detail like wrinkled clothing could easily be overlooked. But imagine you are meeting a consultant you hired for the first time and he shows up looking half-baked wearing wrinkled clothes? Deep down, you may find yourself wondering, “If he has this lack of attention to detail in the way he presents himself, what else may he drop the ball on down the road?”

As professional women and entrepreneurs, we need to show up looking like who we say we are. Our words, mannerisms, and professional image need to be in complete alignment in order for clients to trust us and be willing to do business with us.  

If you are a financial planner and showing up looking like a gypsy, do you think your clothing is going to give your clients the confidence they need to entrust you with planning their retirement? No. As a financial professional, they are going to expect a certain degree of decorum and tailored styling. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that you stifle the gypsy altogether – I’m simply saying there’s a time and a place for everything. And for the record, your pinstripe suits will do far more to garner your clients’ confidence that you can get the job done than an armful of bracelets and a broomstick skirt.

It is my purpose to help align women’s inner and outer beauty. If you are feeling out of sorts and out of alignment, you are in the right place. Right now I am getting ready to debut an exclusive program “Be YOU, Be BEAUTIFUL, Be BANKABLE™” that will help you attract your perfect clients by simply showing up as your authentic self. Let me help you take your beauty all the way to the bank! 


NEW MENTORING PROGRAM UNVEILS:  JULY 25TH @ 1PM PST

 
 
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For the last ten years I’ve pretty much been doing the same eye makeup and recently I have really wanted to mix things up. 

So when my good friend and makeup artistDorothyInez invited me to her Simply Gorgeous Eyes class, I was excited to access her genius and learn more. (You may remember DorothyInez as the makeup artist from the recent Sell Your Sole Consignment Boutique photo shoot.)

With six of us in the class, DorothyInez demonstrated makeup techniques on a model, then gave us a chance to practice the new techniques on our own faces while giving feedback on our application. Her teaching style is really playful, informative, and encouraging which made for an enjoyable class.


Here are some great take-aways I walked away with:

  1. Makeup can help you create the perfect face. Using the right makeup placement, you can draw attention to certain areas of your face and give the illusion of a perfect face.
  2. When applying eye shadow, look down rather than closing your eyes. When we close our eyes, it can cause our eyelid to scrunch. It may help to tilt your head back.
  3. When holding a makeup brush, hold it from the end for feather-light application. When you hold from the middle of the brush, you obscure your line of vision, blocking you from seeing your progress, and your application is too heavy.
  4. When you’re applying your makeup, relax! Do you have the tendency of opening your eyes really wide when applying your eye makeup? I do! Don’t forget to relax your facial muscles!
  5. When you clean your makeup brushes, squeeze them dry, then lightly reshape. No wringing out the water! Be kind to your brushes and they will last for a long time.
  6. Dark colors close down the eye while light colors open it up. For example, if you have small eyes, lining the waterline on the lower part of your eye with a white pencil will make them look larger.
  7. Before applying fake lashes, draw a thin line on the base of the lashes so there isn’t a gap between your natural lashes and the falsies.
  8. When applying the glue to the false lashes, let the glue dry for 30-60 seconds before application, rather than right away when the glue is still wet.
  9. Start applying the falsies from the outside of the eye in at the base of your lashes. Use closed tweezers to press down the lashes against your skin.
  10. Every woman is beautiful.
My Before and After---- I am amazed at the difference the falsies made.


At the end of the class I was feeling so glamorous! I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve worn false eyelashes so it was a real treat to play around with this medium.
Even DorothyInez who swears by MAC and Motives will use the $4 lashes from Target. One of the gals brought lashes from e.l.f. and they were really long and lovely.
If you want to tap into DorothyInez’s genius, she is hosting another Simply Glamorous Eyes Workshop on Saturday, August 4rd in Tacoma specifically for evening eyes. If you can’t attend, she also offers Online Makeup Classes via Skype. Check it out!
What's your favorite makeup tip?



Written by Sarah Ward, Image Consultant, Cable Car Couture

Photography: Sarah Ward


Sarah Ward, AICI, is a dynamic, creative, impeccably dressed Image Management Consultant who is dedicated to beautifying the world, one person at a time. After executing her first makeover in the seventh grade, she has been helping women look and feel their best ever since. Please contact her for all your personal styling needs @ Cable Car Couture







 
 
So... this has been on my mind for AWHILE!  So today after being called Dorothy one more time, I just decided to share it. Many of you may be saying, girl you are crazy, but that's ok.  lol

In America, we tend to want to shorten peoples names instead of Susan, we say Suzie, Joseph, we say Joe and instead of DOROTHYINEZ, we say "Dorothy" without even asking if they mind.  I have found as I have tried these past few month to "correct" people that is is VERY UNCOMFORTABLE to do but it must be done because it's apart of my branding, just like Minister of Beauty™.  In fact, several women who also have difficult names told me it doesn't even matter to them anymore because they are used to it.  USED TO IT???  REALLY?  Why do we have to get used to be called anything but our name.  If someone decided to call you _______________(you fill it in) would you just go with that too?

For 40+ years I was called Inez, which I love! But when I was called to start a business to serve  women, I felt God inspired me to use my first and middle name TOGETHER, Not Dorothy, Not Inez, DorothyInez. My close friends and family call me Inez of course and that's ok. 

I believe our names are divinely given to us.  Most parents take the time to specially choose your name, they think long and hard some even have arguments about it.  I think it is a disrespect to that person to call them anything other than their given name without their permission.  I know NONE of you meant ANY disrespect, but I am just making a point.  I often feel bad for immigrant Americans who come up with "American" names because no one want to try to pronounce their given name.  It breaks my heart that Min Joo has to be "Helen" because we refuse to TRY to pronounce her name or Mary Susan has to just be Mary because it takes too long to say her full name.

Our names have meaning and I bet if you looked up yours, you would find that in some way you are living into that name because you have been called it for however many years. My name is Dorothy (Gift of God) and Inez (With A Pure Heart) that is who I am called to be to EVERY woman who works with me. Each time you say my name, I am reminded of my purpose and calling. It may seem long but its pretty easy to say once you get it. :-) 

I encourage you the next time you meet someone to ask what they like to be called don't just assume Suzanne wants to be called Suzy.  She just doesn't have the courage to correct you.  I can testify that it is so hard to do.  

Here's a video also explaining my logo AND name. I hope you understand where I am coming from. So please No more DOROTHY'S I share this with you in ♥


DorothyInez, Minister of Beauty

 
 
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From clutch bags to big bags for day to day use, many women have numerous bags of all kind for different occasions. For them, being able to match their bag to the special event or occasion is important. However, most women tend to be less aware of the things in their bag or how much items there inside that are not really needed. As surveys were made, there are list of things that many women have been carrying in their bags that they don’t really need.

Today, most women have big bags with all the “can’t live without necessities”. These items have been their security blanket. These gigantic bags full of everything stuffs are definitely considered by women as their home away from home. They always anticipate all the things they might need or their loved ones’ need. These women want to be prepared all the time.

Some women bring the items in their bags that they can’t live their house because they see these things as their inspirations. They consider these things as fun fashionable choices for personal use.

1. Smart phone – The new technology today attributed in the use of cell phones or smart phones as a necessity. You can now reach your family, friends, business partners and guests by just a text message or call away. There are many designs to choose from depending on the way you want to use it.

2. Wallet – The wallet or purse is a safe thing where women keep their credit cards, identification cards and money.

3. Small notebook and pen – These two are essential items for note takings. These are very ideal for taking down notes.

4. Mints or gum – This is an aid to freshen up. It can be an option to have a mint or a gum to keep you awake and alert.

5. Hand sanitizer – It is always a good idea to have a hand sanitizer inside you bag. On an average day, you normally touch anything like dirty doorknobs and dirty table. You are not sure if the things you touched are clean. This is the reason why you need to have a hand sanitizer for protection and prevention of illness most especially on the flu and cold season. The hand sanitizer will act as alchohol and moisturizer as well.

6. Sunglasses – This is a hand bag essential for most women. Sunglasses can create a focal point for an outfit. It can even conceal a tired face.

7. Lip gloss or lip balm – People admire Angelina Jolie for having pouty lips. Most women bring lip glosses or lip balm inside their bags in order for their lips to add color and also protection for chapped lips.

Other things women have inside their bags are: mp3 player, earphones, bobby pins, house or car keys, pepper spray, hand cream or hand lotion, foundation, powder, mirror, blush and lipstick. As much as possible, women should limit the things inside their bags.



About Biba Pedron:Style-maven and brand strategist, Biba’s chief objective is to aid women entrepreneurs in growing their business by merging solid business strategies with their own personal style. Biba has always acknowledged that the number one marketing tool is the way you look, as it is the first thing people see upon first meeting you. For more tips for successful business and personal style needs with Biba’s French twist, download her Free ebook "Top 10 Must-haves For Successful Business in Style" at http://yourbusinessinstyle.com
 
 
Restoration From Letting Go

Have you ever struggled in a relationship and wondered why no matter how hard try YOU nothing ever changed?  Have you been obsessed with trying to control the outcomes of everything in your life?

I realized after all these years, I have been trying to control everything and everyone in my life so much that I lost myself and created tremendous amounts of unnecessary stress. 

Instead of trying to change someone else, I decided to work on reconnecting with my spirit and in doing so, I have fallen in love with WHO I AM.  It is this love for ME, that I now have the ability to let others be who they are without judgement,  My husband sees the light that made him fall in love with me so many years ago.  This shift in me has caused a shift in US.  I always new God had the ability to RESTORE but I never imagined it would happen to me.

I am sharing this little story with hopes that it will inspire you to consider letting go of the need to control everything in life.  Control has the power to take away our inner beauty and dim our light. It is that light that draws the things we long for like: loving relationships, peace, good health and beauty.  This past quarter, I have revitalized my sense of self-love, confidence and connection with spirit.  This connection has manifested some amazing new relationships in my personal and professional life.

What is control costing you?  What would your life look and feel like if you just gave it up?  I can tell you, I have less lines and feel more beautiful inside.  Here are 3 things you can DO to RECONNECT with YOU starting today:


  1. Connect with Source (Your spiritual roots) Take time to pause in the morning or night to reflect and connect with your deeper self.  This can be through meditation, positive affirmations, or reading a spiritual book.
  2. This may sound CRAZY...but look at yourself in the mirror and see what you LOVE about yourself. THEN... say, "I love you, (your name). Make sure you are looking into your eyes.  The first time I did this I cried.  Do it everyday, the more you say positive things to yourself, you begin to believe them, just like you do the negative.
  3. Start taking care of your body.  Your body is your temple and when you really get that concept, there will be a shift in how you treat it.  We all want to be beautiful but it starts with taking care of our temple, INSIDE AND OUT.  I am still working on this one.  I love to eat and hate exercise but guess what, I want to feel vibrant and beautiful so I have to do the work.  For me, belly dance is my workout.  Find something you love. Drink water.  I like mine with mint and orange slices.
Just take it one step at a time.  If you have some great ideas, let me know.  I would love to share them.

On May 26th, I am officially launching my new mineralized product line of choice:  Motives by Loren Ridinger. This line is being used by celebrities like:  Alicia Keys, Eva Longoria, Kim Kardashian, Katy Perry and more!!  Visit my website and send me any questions, I will be glad to help.

Visit my website to all my products and services:  www.dorothyinez.com


With Love and Light,

Dorothy Inez Del Tufo
Minister of Beauty